DON'T BREAK YOUR MENTALITY WHEN YOUR HUSBAND CHEATS ON YOU

DON'T BREAK YOUR MENTALITY WHEN YOUR HUSBAND CHEATS ON YOU. This writing is aimed at wives, especially wives who have been or are experiencing Domestic Violence (KDRT), one of which, i.e. affair.

Living in this patriarchal culture requires wives to bear a lot of burdens on their shoulders. Not just a physical burden but, also a mental burden.

Wives are husbands' servants, the wife's obligatory duty is in three places, namely the well, the kitchen and the mattress. The wife is fully responsible for the condition of the home and its occupants from waking up to sleeping again. Imagine, how physically tired the typing wife is to be a multitasking woman. 

Be grateful when the husband is a good man, patient, established and faithful, maybe the burden will not feel heavy. However, the test comes when the husband is tempered, economically weak, even unfaithful a.k.a. a cheater.

As we often hear, the most unforgivable thing in a marriage is infidelity. When a husband cheats, most in our culture who are to be blamed is the wife, the one who is ashamed is the wife, who loses her self-esteem is the wife, that bears the disgrace is the wife. 

Wives are often blamed for inability to keep up with her looks, so husbands turn to other women, it's a form of judgement we hear most often, right? In fact, in the past, advertisements for feminine products were viral that used to say justify the act of "trafficking" due to the wife who refused to take care of her feminine organs. 

It's so sad, when a husband is an adulterer, but the wife who has to bear the shame because she is considered unable to take care of herself and cannot serve her husband well. It hurts even more, if those words are thrown out of a woman's mouth too.

How broken a wife's heart is when her husband cheats, shares his love with another woman, until the end the wife feels humiliated, then blames herself. 

Feeling unbeautiful and unworthy of love, until you end up in the phase of "oh, it's normal that my husband cheats, because I'm ugly, I'm skinny, I'm fat, I'm not good at cooking, I can't make money, I'm this, I'm that" mental destructive sentences.

Dear wives, when your husband is cheating, look in the mirror! Not to condemn yourself, but look at yourself, hold your face high, don't bend. You're beautiful, you're good, you're great, you've done the best in your marriage. 

The fault is not on you, but on the person who cannot appreciate the meaning of loyalty, the person who cannot keep the dignity of his marriage, the person whose lust is easily provoked by Satan. Your heart is already broken, don't add more by judging yourself for the mistakes done by others. Not many wives are mentally destroyed by infidelity. 

However, only a few are able to rise, because of the bad support system in our society that many still consider that the wife is the source of mistakes when her husband glances at other women.

Once again, dear wife, rise! You're awesome, you're kind, you're beautiful with the faithful predicament you're wearing. Never drown yourself on the destruction that wasn't caused by you. You deserve to be happy, no matter your circumstances.

Happy Wife Happy Life ❤

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